PROPOSAL IDEAS & PLANNING

Start with the plan (but don’t overthink it)

Even the most spontaneous proposals usually come with a little planning behind the scenes. Giving yourself time helps everything feel calmer — but there’s no single “right way” to propose.

Some people plan for weeks. Others decide on the moment. What matters most is that your partner feels considered, understood, and loved.

A few things to think about early on:

• Do they prefer private moments or shared celebrations?
• Would they enjoy a surprise, or feel more comfortable choosing together?
• Is there a place, date, or detail that already has meaning for you both?

Once you have a general direction, the rest tends to fall into place.

Setting an engagement ring budget

Deciding how much to spend on an engagement ring is often the first practical step — and one of the most personal.

There are no rules. The old “three months’ salary” idea no longer reflects how people actually shop. A budget should feel comfortable, realistic, and aligned with how you live your life together.

Setting a budget early helps narrow your options and brings clarity to the process, from exploring styles to comparing diamond choices. If you’d like a deeper breakdown, our How much to spend on an engagement ring guide explains today’s price ranges and what genuinely influences value. You can also speak to our experts for straightforward advice, with no pressure.

Choosing the right engagement ring

If you’re proposing with the ring, it’s normal to feel the weight of getting it right. A little preparation goes a long way.

Start with the basics

Setting style, metal choice, diamond shape, and whether you’re considering a natural or lab-grown diamond. Our Engagement Ring Guide explains these clearly, including the 4 Cs — cut, colour, clarity, and carat.

Think about their style

Look at the jewellery your partner already wears for clues to their style, and remember that many couples now choose the ring together after the proposal. Using a temporary or proposal ring is a popular option and keeps the surprise intact.

Small details — even casual comments made months ago — often point you in the right direction.

Narrow it down with expert help

Whether you browse online or visit in-store, speaking with a specialist can help refine your shortlist. From timeless solitaires to modern halo styles and lab-grown designs, the right ring is the one that suits them — not a trend.

If choosing feels stressful

Many couples now propose first and choose the engagement ring together. Others prefer to propose with a promise ring, then return to select the final piece as a shared experience. There’s no loss of romance in either approach — for many, it becomes part of the story.

If you’re weighing up what feels right, our guides on promise rings and buying an engagement ring together can help you decide with confidence.

Finding their ring size (without spoiling the surprise)

Knowing the ring size can make the proposal feel smoother — but it isn’t essential. Resizing is always possible, and it’s a very normal part of the process.

If you’d like to try finding it discreetly, a few reliable options include:

• borrowing a ring they already wear (from the correct finger)
• asking a close friend or family member you trust
• using our Ring Size Guide, which includes simple, practical tips and conversion charts

For more discreet ideas, How to find their ring size secretly walks through the most common approaches — from everyday tricks to what to do if you’re completely unsure.

Making the proposal personal

The best proposal ideas aren’t about scale — they’re about meaning.

Some people love quiet, intimate moments at home or outdoors. Others enjoy celebrating with friends and family. Choose what suits your partner’s personality, and add a personal detail that reflects your relationship — a favourite place, a shared memory, or a meaningful date.

That personal touch is what makes the moment unforgettable.

What to say when you propose

At the heart of every proposal are four simple words: “Will you marry me?”

Some people keep it that simple. Others like to say a little more. There’s no right or wrong — sincerity matters more than rehearsed speeches. If nerves take over, that’s normal. A few honest words are always enough.

The moment itself

It’s natural to feel nervous just before you propose. Take a breath. Slow down. Be present.

Once you’ve asked the question and heard “yes”, everything else fades away. That’s the moment you’ll remember — not whether everything went exactly to plan.

If you’re proposing with the ring, place it gently on their finger. If not, enjoy the moment knowing you’ll choose it together.

After the “yes”

Once the excitement settles, we’re here to help with what comes next — from resizing and care to choosing wedding rings when the time is right.

You can book an appointment at any stage, from choosing the engagement ring to planning what comes next together.